Welcome to Therapy By Desire
Come as you are.
Leave as who you're becoming.
You've always been too much for some rooms & not enough for others. This is the room where you get to be both.
As an EMDR-certified clinician, I work with people who have spent their lives shape-shifting to fit in — at work, in their families, in their own skin. Whether it's the weight of childhood trauma, the quiet erosion of a corporate career, or the exhaustion of straddling cultures and never fully belonging to any of them, I help you find your way back to yourself.
My clients show up in all kinds of ways — some are holding everything together, others are barely holding on. What they share is this: they're deeply feeling, often invisible to themselves, and ready for something different. They don't need to be fixed. They need to be finally, fully seen.
I see what’s underneath the performance.
About Desiré.
Growing up I had to learn to fit into rooms that weren't made for me. Play small, remain silent. That's exactly why I'm good at this work — I see the ones who look fine on the outside and aren't. The ones who've never quite belonged anywhere. The ones who are done performing and ready to actually feel. I don't start where you think you are. I start where you actually are — underneath the performance, the productivity, the person everyone else needs you to be. If you're ready to meet that version of yourself — the one who's been waiting — I'm ready to help.
My Approach
01 - See Clearly.
Before anything else, we find what's actually happening beneath the story you've been telling yourself.
02 - Understand the Wiring.
Your patterns developed for good reasons. We honor that, then decide which ones still serve you.
03 - Rewrite Intentionally.
With clarity and tools that match how your mind actually works, you start showing up as who you meant to be.
What I offer
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For the ones who hold everything together — and are exhausted by it.
You're functioning. Maybe even thriving on paper. But underneath there's anxiety you can't shake, a sense of self that keeps shifting, and a weight that never quite lifts.
This is where we slow down and figure out what's actually going on — not just the symptoms, but the story underneath them. Together we build practical tools for regulation and clarity, explore who you are beneath the roles you've been playing, and create change that actually sticks.
You don't have to keep performing okay.
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For the ones who keep having the same fight and can't figure out why.
You're not broken. You're just speaking different emotional languages — and no one ever taught you how to translate.
Whether you're a couple stuck in the same loop, a family trying to reconnect after distance or conflict, or partners navigating a major life transition, this is where you learn to hear each other differently.
We slow down the moments that escalate, find the need underneath the reaction, and build practical tools for communication that actually holds — beyond just a session, to a Tuesday night when everything feels like too much.
You were brought together for a reason. Let's find your way back to it.
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For the ones who look like they have it together — and are tired of pretending they do.
You're high-achieving by every external measure. But privately there's restlessness, a creeping sense that your decisions come from fear or habit rather than intention, and a version of yourself you've never quite let show up at work.
That tension isn't weakness. It's your nervous system telling you something important.
Together we name the hidden drivers — perfectionism, imposter scripts, the need for approval that never quite lands — and trace how they show up in your leadership, your relationships, and your wellbeing. Then we build something better than coping: actual clarity about who you are and how you want to move through the world.
You don't have to keep contorting yourself to fit a role you outgrew.
You don’t have to have the words yet.
You just have to be willing to start. I offer a free 15-minute consultation — no pressure, no paperwork, just a conversation to see if we're the right fit.